Washing The Dishes – The Art of Finding Balance

Washing The Dishes – The Art of Finding Balance

A Commentary On Time Management, Productivity and Work/Life Balance

Let’s Talk About Dishes

How do you load the dishwasher?  No really?  Are you a “let it pile up and I’ll tackle it all at once” kinda human or a “that dish just landed and I’m coming in hot” kinda person?  Or maybe you’re the “Just what I need, when I need it” weirdo. I’m sort of obsessed with ways to get more out of myself, my day and (of course) my work.  I think it’s a healthy reverence.  My friends and family use “obsession” (whatevs). 

If you hang around SOCO long enough, you’ll inevitably see me hovering over the dishwasher rearranging mugs and glasses and bowls in the eternal search for the “optimized wash”

ps: In case you were wondering, there’s a scientifically-backed approach to doing it well – thank you American Cleaning Institute. 😎

pss: Yes.  Hannah Lee and I are working on a team member handbook on how to optimize dishwashing as one of our core values. 🙌🏾

What The Hell Are You Talking About, Greg?

Well friend.  Washing dishes is a corollary for your work (or your life or both):

  1. It’s a daily routine (for most of us)
  2. It can feel never ending (you run it and 10 minutes later they’re baaaaack!)
  3. If you don’t tend to them, they pile up and can create a lot of stress and not just for you (don’t believe me?  Read this). 
  4. They suck!  Like, who raises their hand for dishes??? But, you just have to do it (kind of like work for most of us).  
  5. And finally…there are a like hundred different ways to getting them done!

So, Why Are You Creating Dishwasher Distress?

Here goes. The actual dishes are ALL THE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE.  💥

Your work commitments. Your social relationships.  Your family needs.  Your personal time.  Your mom (that you haven’t called back in weeks).  If you need to spend time on it, then it’s a “dish”.  And you need to take care of each one (eventually).  But every bloody week, the dishes pile up and you can never seem to get around to all of them. 

What needs to go in right now?  What can wait?  Are the plates more important than the mugs?  Do some need to be washed by hand because they are delicate or breakable? How many minutes should I spend standing over this sink before I go postal (I can’t be the only one)?  

My point is this.  It’s all gotta get done.  So, the real question is what’s important to you and how do you handle things when when the “shit” piles up? 

  

6 Things We Can Learn About “Balance” From Dishes

  • There’s Always Dirty Work: We all want to do the high value work that’s strategic and high value. But, you’re fooling yourself if you think you can avoid the dirty work all the time. In fact, sometimes leadership is more about showing than telling. So, lead by example and get your hands dirty. 🧼
  • Take Pleasure In Small Wins/Steps/Efforts: Struggling with an overwhelming task? Start small. Wash a dish. And then another. And then another. Small wins can have a profound impact on your well-being. Take baby steps towards your goal and before you know it…”the dishes are done man…”. 😂
  • Find Purpose In All Things: Washing dishes, taking out the trash, cleaning out your inbox, decluttering your workspace, reviewing your spending…whatever the mundane task…it does serve a purpose. Assign value to the outcome and transcend the monotony of the task. For me (at home), washing the dishes is one way that I say “I love you” to my partner. I wash the dishes (at night mostly) so that when she wakes up, she’ll come into a clean(er) kitchen. That reduces her stress and that’s a good thing. 💪🏽
  • Know Your Priorities: Know When Something Is A Priority (And When It Isn’t). We can’t get it all done. Stop trying. Really. So, life is really about choosing where to invest your time and in what. Take a hard look at where you spend your time and what efforts will help you create the most momentum. Those small tasks can consume your day, but ask yourself if they’re moving the needle or not. If they aren’t, maybe the dishes can wait another day. 🎯
  • Reward Yourself: Listen. Carrots always work better than sticks. So, if you have to get through some hard stuff (or a hard day/week), know it’s going to suck and set aside some time to reward yourself with something related to emotional, mental or physical wellness. Hard = A Reward. Listen…there’s a reason people plan their vacations in advance. 🏖️
  • Ask For Help: Sometimes, life can get overwhelming. Being entrepreneurial sometimes feels like you’re the “capitan”, the first mate and everyone else on the deck of the ship. Know when to ask for help and Surround yourself with people who can offer emotional support, practical help, and guidance when needed. 🆘

Looking for a little more?

Check out this great episode on the Communal podcast where Greg and Gene answer listener questions on work/life balance, leadership and remaining your authentic self. It’s a good one.

About The Author:

Greg Hilton is the cofounder and managing partner for SOCO, SOCO is a thriving platform and community focused on supporting creators, indie workers and entrepreneurs just like you. He’s an avid outdoorsman, creator and storyteller.

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5 Entrepreneurial (And Life) Lessons from The Worst Hike of Our Lives

5 Entrepreneurial (And Life) Lessons from The Worst Hike of Our Lives

This is NOT good, Greg.”

An Epic Hike Begins

Back when I first married my wife Kat, we LOVED to travel and explore the outdoors.  We’d go all over the southeast in search of good trails.  One fall, we decided to hike from Amicalola Falls (straight) up to the southern terminus of the Appalachian Trail on Springer Mountain in North Georgia.  It’s an epic hike with a memorable visual finish at the start of the storied Appalachian Trail.  It’s also a bloody slog and almost all uphill.

Don’t Think. Just Start.

I was anxious to get out there and on the trail and being a confident 30-something, didn’t really do much by way of planning.  Kat trusted me, so we got up early, headed to Amicalola and without much fanfare, hit the trail with a small backpack, “enough” water and some snacks to get us through the hike.  I wasn’t really worried.  It was a pretty straight shot and we had a lot of experience hiking.  Also. There’s this wonderful “hike in” hostel up there that is a fantastic mid-way point.  They have food, snacks, water and a place to rest should you need it.


When Your Plan Goes To Shit

The “straight” hike was straight alright.  Straight up.  A brisk pace turned to a snails crawl.  We passed the Inn on the way up and stopped in to say hello.  We didn’t resupply because we thought we’d do it on the way back down.  5 hours into our hike, we reached the terminus.  We celebrated with a few photos and started the trek back down.  

That’s when things got worse. We were running low on water and had burned through our provisions.  We also took a wrong turn near the top (and our navigation app didn’t work up on the mountain) so by the time we got back on track, our 15 mile hike was looking more like 19.0 miles.  Kat was exhausted.  I was fatigued. 

Then things got a lot worse.  We were desperately trying to reach the hike inn hostel and arrived ready to fall over.  Trouble was…they had closed up early that day and the placed was locked up.  So, we were out of food, running low on water (and light) and still had another terrible 5 miles to go.  That was the longest 5 miles of our relationship.  Kat was feeling terrible and nearly collapsed a couple of times. The only way we made it down the mountain was by playing word association games to distract ourselves from the hunger, thirst and fatigue.  

We laugh about it now, but that 18 miles in 1 day hiking experience tested our relationship and our will/perseverance.  And the worst part about it is that it all could have been avoided.  

This IS The Entrepreneurial Journey (but, does it have to be?)

I feel like that hike is symbolic of life (and the entrepreneurial journey) in a lot of ways. We’re all scrambling to create opportunities, take risks with social or financial rewards and balance all the elements of our work and lives. Like everything else, we all:

  • Have lofty, ambitious goals
  • Feel eternally under-resourced, while being eternally optimistic 
  • Are gritting/willing our way through things
  • Experience constant obstacles
  • Have to come up with creative problem solving

Did you have lofty ambitions for this year?  Were your sights set on big things?  Did you hit the ground running?  Charging up the mountain only to run out of water halfway up?  

5 Painful Lessons I Learned

If you’re starting a new journey or evaluating the one that you’re on, I humbly submit some suggestions for your consideration based on our “wonderful” experience.  

  1. Plan Ahead 🎯 – You can’t ever predict everything that can happen on a journey like this, but you prepare and plan for contingencies.  The more you can de-risk a situation, the more likely it is that you’ll achieve success.  Where are we going?  What’s the journey along the way look like really?  What do we need to pack (the right people, enough financial resources, tools that will help make the job easier, etc). 

  2. Get a Freaking Map 🗺️ – Listen.  It’s just stupid to launch into something big without a good map (read: clear game plan) for where you’re going, what stops along the way you can make along the way (read: milestones) and what alternatives you can take to reach the summit (read: backup plans).  

  3. Pack The Essentials 🚰 – Knowing what really matters and focusing on those things can be the difference between achieving your goals and bailing with miles left to go.  As Greg McKeown espouses in “Essentialism”, learn to quickly discern the trivial many from the vital few tasks that will help you achieve success.  

  4. Check In Often ✅ – Stuff goes wrong.  And I’ve never hit a goal that I wasn’t tracking and monitoring.  Have some good KPIs that are meaningful.  Check in often with those KPIs, your team and yourself.

  5. Correct Your Course 🧭 – Don’t be too proud, confident or stubborn to acknowledge when things are going off course.  As Tyson said: “everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.” 

About The Author:

Greg Hilton is the cofounder and managing partner for SOCO, SOCO is a thriving platform and community focused on supporting creators, indie workers and entrepreneurs just like you. He’s an avid outdoorsman, creator and storyteller.

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10 Women That Are Getting Sh*t Done

10 Women That Are Getting Sh*t Done

Introducing Some Badasses

We’re all surrounded by talented women in our lives. It just so happens that we’re super extra fortunate to be a part of a co-operative work community that is chock full of badass female creators, innovators and community builders.  They wear many hats.  They take on a bunch of responsibilities.  And they do amazing work.  So this post is for them.  

We want to celebrate their spirit, tell their stories and amplify their voices this month.  While we are fortunate to have many, many female members in our community…too many to list here.  But these are just some of the folks doing big, cool or interesting things worth noting.  Our challenge to you…read their stories, connect with them, follow them.  They have causes you can support, skills and knowledge you can hire and stories worth sharing. When women thrive…we all thrive.

PS: There are 12 actually…we couldn’t help ourselves. 😂

Amy Johnson Ely

Amy is the Executive Director for The Palmetto Cycling Coalition whose mission is to make South Carolina bicycle and pedestrian friendly, by improving safety through better access and education, to promote healthy lifestyles and livable and economically viable communities.  Amy is a huge advocate for bicycle and pedestrian friendly communities and livable communities; activating stakeholders, citizens and evangelists alike.

Bianca Shelton

Bianca is an entrepreneur, wife, mom and a  pizza and Prosecco enthusiast. Her favorite meal is brunch (check out her podcast Books, Brunch and Babes), a lover of all books (she still buys actual books), a branding photoshoot pro (check out her company, the Crawford Austin Agency) and a travel snob.

Dawn Dawson House

Dawn is fighting to preserve, celebrate and elevate African American cultural heritage in South Carolina and beyond. As the Executive Director of the WeGOJA Foundation, Dawn leverages her 20+ years as a tourism professional, storyteller and convener to document, preserve and activate African American heritage in South Carolina.  Their wildly popular and award-winning GreenBook of SC provided one of the first of its kind travel guide to SC African American cultural sites. (a co-operative project with SOCO members).   

Fiona Martin

Fiona is a competitive triathlete, founder of the worker-owned digital marketing agency FGM Internet Marketing, and an environmental activist.  When she’s not designing digital campaigns for companies and causes she believes in, she’s competing at the highest level in triathlons around the world (competing in the ITU World Championships for Team USA).  Fiona is a vocal advocate for the environment, sustainable development and equitable access for marginalized persons and cultures. 

Helen Johnson

Founder and creative director of digital powerhouse HLJ Creative, Helen Johnson is passionate about combining eye-catching design with data-driven marketing strategies to create brands and websites that make the right impression, accomplish your goals, and lead to long-term growth. She’s an entrepreneur and a super mom.  She’s seeing incredible growth and is evolving her team’s capabilities to serve the needs of a new generation of clients.

Jada Willis

A high energy and highly impactful coach, consultant and thought leader in organizational culture, talent attraction & retention and leadership…Jada built and sold her first company in late 2022 and is now working on empowering CEOs to build incredible cultures and companies with several new ventures in the works.

Kaleigh Cox

Freelancer turned creative executive.  Kaleigh Cox had a successful career as a freelance copywriter before she met fellow SOCO member Robert Gilbert in the early days of DxTEL. The two joined forces a few years ago and haven’t looked back. DxTEL is a fast growing managed services and platform company serving the rural broadband/telecom industry.  Kaleigh has built a reputation as a savvy storyteller and influencer in the space.  When she’s not evangelizing for access for everyone, she’s all about faith, family and community. 

Kassy Alia Ray

After losing her police officer husband in the line of duty, Kassy was moved to take action and founded Serve & Connect with the mission to help police and citizens work together as one community; Serve & Connect works to heal the relationships between police and the communities they serve and by doing so, creating a future where police and citizens work together as one community.

Katherine Swartz and Bre Spaulding

This dynamic duo is transforming entrepreneurial education and building the next generation of student entrepreneurs at USC through the McNair Institute for Entrepreneurialism and Free EnterpriseKatherine has been transforming nonprofits and shaping the next generation for 20+ years. “Bre” is one of Soda City’s most dynamic young leaders. Working with stakeholders from across the university, the McNair team successfully launched USC’s first ever minor in Entrepreneurship.

Shannon Franklin

Shannon is the Cofounder and COO of Consciously, a creative agency serving the needs of conscious brands including Akimbo (altMBA), B Lab, Black Wealth Data Center, and Planned Parenthood.  Consciously builds purpose-driven, inclusive marketing platforms that help companies nourish their business ecosystem.  In addition to being a mompreneur and a brand builder, Shannon has launched a life coaching business. 


Starlitt Miller

Starlitt Miller is blending a creative background with technology and data with her new startup Transity.  In 2022, Starlitt graduated from Visible Hands, a high tech accelerator focused on investing in and lifting up underrepresented founders.  She’s a vocal and active member of the Cola startup scene and the most recent Entrepreneur in Residence at the Richland Library.

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Here’s How to Manage Your Business Finances, According to a Financial Strategy Expert

Here’s How to Manage Your Business Finances, According to a Financial Strategy Expert

Starlitt Miller helps entrepreneurs, freelancers, and micro-business owners manage their money. She’s spent countless hours working with them to help improve their finances. As founder of Start Accounting And Business Solutions (SAABS), she’s an expert in helping people sort through bookkeeping problems and develop better financial management practices. 

Spending so much time with business owners, she’s developed a keen understanding of what makes someone successful when it comes to a critical part of running a business: managing the money. 

No amount of talent, customer service, or product matters if the books are off. 

So, we asked Starlitt what she believes people need to do to keep their business finances in order. Here’s what she had to say. 

The Biggest Struggle for Most People: Discipline 

Establishing good financial practices early in the business is one of the most important keys to long-term success, according to Starlitt. And she said that’s hard for many people. Sometimes the business starts as a hobby or side gig but quickly grows into a larger income stream or a full-time job. So creating good habits and sticking to them is essential. 

“Being disciplined about separating and treating the business like a business, like it’s separate from you,” Miller said. 

In other words, you need a business bank account (and that’s the minimum). 

And Starlitt noted most people don’t need a complicated system. You can track revenue and expenses using a spreadsheet. 

Starlitt said she’s worked with many entrepreneurs who don’t establish good baseline practices. Instead, they use various payment methods and blend business expenses with personal. And this can cause problems when it comes to taxes and planning for the next year. 

“But very often, even at the baseline, it’s like, there’s too much gray space [with] how it’s being organized.” 

Starlitt said one of the critical steps for anyone, whether you’re full-time or just running a business on the side, is establishing an LLC, getting an Employer Identification Number (EIN), and separating your business finances from personal. This makes the organization easier, but it also helps protect your personal assets in legal cases involving your business. 

Even established businesses don’t take proper financial management steps, according to Starlitt. 

“So what I’m seeing is that that baseline of organizing, separating, it’s not taken seriously enough.” 

Part of the problem? 

Starlitt said she’s worked with many business owners who only look at their bank balance. 

“They [businesses] often hired and retained the CPA firm. [And]  from an operational standpoint within the year, unless they needed formal statements, they were looking at their bank balance to see how well they’re doing. The cash balance is one part of the picture,” Miller said. 

Even after establishing business bank accounts and setting up an LLC, it’s essential to track transactions and understand cash flow. 

Starlitt explained many people know they need to look at their financial statements but don’t understand them. And that’s okay. But, it’s important to work with someone (like Starlitt) to learn and be educated on the basics. 

“I do encourage them, and I approach our work together in an educational way because I never want someone to work with me because they have to or if they leave me they won’t know what’s going on within their business. That’s not a good position to be in.” 

Overcome Bad Habits with a Better System 

If tracking finances were easy, everyone would budget, save enough for retirement, and never worry about having cash to cover expenses. 

But human beings struggle to create beneficial financial habits. Starlitt said it’s tough to understand why people don’t manage their business income well because you deal with human behavior and everyone has different tendencies. 

Starlitt noted each person needs to understand their relationship with money. Everyone has a different background and experience with how they manage it. Those habits will bleed into your business as well. 

A critical step in establishing good financial habits is about connecting with the right tools and people, according to Starlitt. 

Many business owners only focus on what they owe the IRS and it dictates their view of how their business is performing. Starlitt says the IRS shouldn’t be the driving force behind why you look at your numbers. 

 “I think it [the IRS] deserves some level of being shrunken down to see a bigger picture because the operational side of your business and how you potentially grow it is why you also need to understand your numbers,” she said. 

For many entrepreneurs, it will require a mindset shift. 

“The mindset would be the starting point in my opinion and everything else is really about what you need as a person,” Starlitt said. 

From there, it’s important to establish a process to match your needs as a business owner and individual. 

If you’re looking for a system, Starlitt recommends Profit First to help establish a structure. The priority should be finding a system to benefit your business and your money management habits.  

Starlitt’s worked with many companies, and she said those who are most successful set up a system and stick to it. 

“Those that set up a system and then maintain it at a basic level, right, so you set up the organizational bins and you put things back where they belong,” Miller said. “You keep everything in its place, and you’re not missing any information.”

When you have your data organized and in the same place, it makes working with partners like accountants and business coaches much easier.  

Take the First Step 

Finances are intimidating for many business owners. Lots of folks don’t pay much attention because they’re focused on running the company and doing what they’re good at. But, when you signup to be an entrepreneur, this kind of work comes with the territory. 

Get yourself registered as an LLC. Or ask an expert (like an accountant) about the best structure for your business. Set up a business bank account (many have free checking). And start tracking your income and expenses using a basic spreadsheet. Each step will be another in the right direction toward good financial health for your business. And when you get to a place where you need additional support, find a great partner (like Starlitt!) to offer expertise. 

You can learn more about Starlitt Miller and her work (plus a new venture she’s starting) right here

Goal Setting in 2019 w/ Jeannie Sullivan

What small steps will you take regularly to create momentum toward your goal?

If you’ve got big plans for 2019, you don’t want to miss out on setting goals. Last month, I had the chance to work with a small group of entrepreneurs, creators, and dreamers to help them map out their plans into actionable steps.

In case you missed it, here’s a quick recap of how to turn your big picture plans into actionable goals.

Step 1: Cast a Vision

Take just a few minutes to dream about how your life will look three years from now. Specifically, consider the areas of livelihood, wellness, creativity, connection (relationships), and money. Don’t worry about making this part perfect, just jot down a few phrases that represent what you hope will be happening in each area three years down the road.

Step 2: Write REAL Goals

Take each area, one-by-one, and write a REAL goals for where you’ll focus in 2019. REAL goals are like SMART goals but better. Why? Because they include feelings. What does REAL stand for?

(R) Realistic, but challenging

(E) Energizing

(A) Aligned with your vision

(L) Linked to success

An example from my own life in the area of creativity: In 2019, I’ll switch up my morning writing practice so that I’m actively working on an article, short story or poem to share; the sharing will take some courage.

Step 3: Create a Habit

Think of things you can shift in your environment that will support you in taking action toward your goal. Do you need to expand or limit your access to resources? What small steps will you take regularly to create momentum toward your goal?

Step 4: Set Your Intention

An implementation intention will help you start and protect your habits helping you actually accomplish your goals. To help you start a new habit, use a when/where statement. To help protect your habit, use an if/when statement.

Here are examples from my own goals setting strategy:

  • Weekday mornings from 5-6, I’ll write at my dining room table.
  • If  I miss a day, then I’ll add a weekend writing session.

Step 5: Make it Stick

Learn more about your own tendency when it comes to expectations and leverage it to set up accountability systems that truly work for you. To learn more, take this quick assessment by Gretchen Rubin: quiz.gretchenrubin.com.

If you’d like to learn more about these topics, check out these books that have been truly life changing for me:

  • Better Than Before, Gretchen Rubin
  • Atomic Habits, James Clear
  • The Desire Map, Danielle LaPorte

Want some help getting your plan out of your head and down on paper? Reach out to me for a free laser coaching session: jeanniesullivan.com/laser.

Knowledge Bomb: Goal Setting

It’s a familiar cycle. We set a goal, tape it to our desk, and think real hard about it for a few weeks (or minutes, if you left email open). Then something happens. Whether it’s a move, a kid, a layoff, or lack of willpower, most of our goals derail.

Since this is such a shared pain point, SOCO figured what better time to chat about it than in January.

For the first Slack Session of 2019, we met up with a group of members in the #slack_sessions channel to chat through setting and achieving our 2019 goals.

Picking a target for the new year

Some members had big targets, others had small habits they wanted to improve. Things like:

  • Get into digital illustration
  • Cut out (gasp!) caffeine
  • Plan a few snowboarding trips
  • Bulk up various savings accounts (have you read through the Personal Finance session, yet?)
  • Coach a child to a basketball championship
  • Go through the mail every day
  • Take a full month off for vacation
  • Finish a book

Figuring out how the heck to get there

Once members know their goal, it’s less of a matter of what they want to achieve, and more about how. And a lot of members think small steps are the way to go.

How NOT to hit your goals

Just like you can set yourself up for success, you can also set yourself up for failure. If you want to ensure you don’t hit your goals, here are some foolproof ways to do that.

Members’ recipes for nailing goals

Thankfully, members have just as many ideas on hitting your goals as trashing them. When we asked what’s tipped them toward “nailed it” and away from “failed it” in years past, here’s what they had to say.

To reach a goal, you have to put in daily effort. And you want to make sure you have the kind of support system that encourages you to do that. Because doing the work day in and day out? That’s far from easy.

Hey you, don’t miss the next Slack Chat!

If you’re already a member, make sure you’ve joined the #Slack_Sessions channel. It’s where we post updates about topics, times for the next chat, and other related info.

If you’re not a member, how about scheduling a free tour? You’ll get to check out our space, meet a few members, and see for yourself why we rave about SOCO.