SOCO’s Guide To Working With People

by Greg Hilton | Sep 13, 2024 | Good Stuff, Knowledge Bomb, SOCO Members, Why We Hustle

Cofounder Greg Hilton shares his take on the “rules of engagement” for working with others. 😂 😭 😍

People: Can’t Work With Them, Can’t Succeed Without Them

When’s the last time you got something big done all by yourself? It happens, but it’s rare. Why? Because we’re social creatures? And big, hard, scary things are best done with others. .

I’ve spent my professional life in client services, nearly 12 years (whaaat?) building the SOCO Community, 10+ years serving clients at Period Three and nearly 20 years working to build a stronger, more connected entrepreneurial community in my adopted home state of South Carolina (particularly in Columbia, SC).  I’ve seen every kind of human and personality. I’ve worked with stellar ones and really despicable ones.  

We’re All In The People Business

I’ve been thinking a lot how so much of my success can be linked back to working with people I really trust and strong relationships.  If you look back at your most successful interactions with others, you’ll notice patterns and commonality. Over time, I’ve learned to try and leverage a set of values or rules whenever I work with others.

The 10 Immutable Laws of Working With Others

Here’s my take on how to find success in working with other people, whether as a boss, a client, a partner or a collaborateur (or collaboratrice).

#1: Live The Golden Rule (Even When Other’s Don’t)

Regardless of how people treat you, do your best to treat them the way you want to be treated.  I’ve found that if you give it out (in whatever form), you’ll get it back more often than not.  But, It’s your value…not necessarily everyone else’s

#2: Boundaries Are Table Stakes

Boundaries are absolutely REQUIRED to have a healthy and productive relationship with someone.  But, it’s on you if you don’t communicate and enforce those boundaries.

#3: Clarity Is Kindness

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen small miscommunications end up turning into major issues down the line.  You want to get more out of people?  Communicate clearly.  Be clear.  Set clear expectations.  

#4: Accountability is Another Love Language

Everyone talks a good game, but I’ve found that almost everyone benefits from having a little accountability in their lives.  Most of us struggle to be accountable for ourselves.  So, help the folks in your circle honor their commitments b/c you care about them.  If you business partner isn’t living up to their end of the bargain, it is your OBLIGATION to have that painful conversation with them.  #sorrynotsorry

#5: Behavior is a Language

“Watch What They Do, Not What They Say” is a classic line that is so so so very true.  Work with people that actually speak with their actions. Hat tip to Ley Linder on this one, who’s taught me a ton about behavioral analysis.

#6: Shared Values Are More Important Than Ever

You can work with people that might not share your perspective on things.  Hell that’s healthy and can create some amazing results (in creative work for example).  But, I think it’s hard to work with people (like in the trenches work) with whom you don’t share some fundamental commonality in values.

#7: Seek To Understand

To get the most out of people, try to understand what drives and motivates them.  You’re likely to get a much better outcome having this knowledge in hand.  And remember, every single person you work with at some stage in your relationship is going through some stuff that’s rocking their world.  

#8: Avoid Selfish People

Actively avoid those that don’t put other’s needs first.  I don’t mind “enlightened self-interest”, but there are those people who cannot help but figure out what THEY can get out of the situation first.  That doesn’t lead to long-term trust (or results).  

#9: Share Ideas Freely

Some folks want to lead.  Some folks want to follow.  But almost everyone wants to be a part of something meaningful.  So, be the person that drops big ideas that inspire people to think and act differently. 

#10: Be Kind

Just be kind people.  Don’t let people take advantage of you, but put kindness into the world.  

Speaking of Teams… 🏕️ 🤝🏽 🙌

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Growth: The 6 Kinds of People You Need in Your Tribe

by Greg Hilton | Aug 12, 2024 | Good Stuff, Knowledge Bomb, SOCO Members, Why We Hustle

Cofounder Greg Hilton shares his take on the 6 kinds of people you need on your entrepreneurial (or professional journey).

Go It Alone, At Your Peril!

Building something awesome can be a super lonely road.

But, that’s your own fault because it doesn’t have to be. You can go it alone, but that’s a: stupid 👎 and b: unlikely to get you where you want to go 🙃. It’s all about your support tribe, your inspirations, your accountability partners and the people you learn from. For years, I was enamored by the idea that I was a rogue agent pushing against a machine that I didn’t believe in working against the grain to create something different. This led me to think I could do it on my own and I didn’t need help (it also resulted in underperformance if I’m being honest). I’m thankful to have “evolved” from that state of mind with the help of some coaching and some social support.

Who’s In Your Village?

I think there are 5 kinds of people you need to have on your journey to do big things and make an impact. We’ll go through each of them and hit us up on the socials or in the blog comments if we’ve missed anyone major?

#1: The mama (figure)

She (or he) doesn’t even know what you do, but supports you 100%. We all need someone who NEVER gives up on us and supports even our wildest ideas and ambitions, regardless of what they are.

Advice: Check in regularly with them…especially when you’re having a bad day. They are that dose of sunlight you need on the dark days.

#2: The (Keepin’ It Real) Life Partner

They believe in you, but have to live with you every day. They might not understand what you’re sacrificing or going through, but a lot of times you’re doing it for them. They’re a litmus test for your mental and emotional well-being. Let’s face it, if you’re stressed at work, you’re not checking that sh*t at the door as well as you think you are.

Advice: Keep them informed and don’t forget to share the wins too (because your daily updates can get a little negative sometimes).

#3: The Peer(s)

They’re on the path you’re walking, maybe a little ahead, maybe a little behind…but they understand the journey. And that’s the key. They’ve been in the trenches and your struggles are theirs. There is incredible comfort in knowing you’re not alone. Hat tip to Benjamin Culbreth for noting that this group can be super casual and social and that that’s important to the fabric of your entire journey.

Advice: If you’re not meeting and talking regularly with a group of professional peers, get you some. It can be informal for moral or social support, or it can get more formalized (here’s how we do it at SOCO).

#4: The Mentors

These are the folks that are way down that road. They’ve found success, they’ve made all the mistakes and they understand what’s at stake. They have the attitude of “paying it forward” and can love you enough to give you the brutal feedback you need.  They open doors, they speak into you. These folks, for me, have really helped to push me forward.

Advice: Pop your head up, check on your linkedin network and find a handful of people that you’re connected to that you respect. Chances are, whether they’re in your industry or not, they have some insights to share with you. Start with coffee (you buy) and see where it goes. A formal mentoring experience is a larger investment, so test the waters first. 😎

#5: The Inspirations

These are the folks shining their light on the entire world, doing inspired or incredible things or at the very top of their games. You probably don’t know them, but you can still learn from them.  They’ve found a way to set aside the small details to focus on a 10X vision (and they’ve probably chronicled that approach somewhere). They give us something to aspire towards, even if we’ll never actually meet them in person.

Advice: Find the best and the brightest out there in our planet of 8 billion souls and follow their journeys and commentary. They probably have a blog, podcast or books that can help keep you engaged and inspired.

#6: The Cheerleader (Honorable Mention)

He/she knows what you do, knows how much you pour in to it, and is always ready to encourage you to keep going.

Contributor: Naomi Sargent – Chief Operating Officer, One Spartanburg, inc

Looking For Your Village? 🏕️ 🤝🏽 🙌

Listen. Making friends or building a network as an adult can be hard. We’ve got you covered at SOCO. From workspace, to social/professional networking and peer mentoring groups…we’re building a community purpose built to support ambitious working professionals like you. Hope you’ll join us today!

1% Every Day: Member Perspectives on Personal Growth

by Greg Hilton | Aug 12, 2024 | Good Stuff, Knowledge Bomb, SOCO Members, Why We Hustle

SOCO Members Share Tools, Tactics and Topics They’re Exploring To Make Life and Work Improvements.

What Is “1% Every Day”?

Around here, we’re passionate about growth, development and being your best self. Whether that’s personal growth or professional growth, we really subscribe to the 1% Every Day concept.  That idea simply states that if you continue to invest in yourself and improving every day (or week or month, you get the idea), that over time, you can achieve transformative change and astonishing growth.

But getting started can be scary. At first, the changes will seem insignificant. But when repeated over a long period of time, these small daily improvements add up to a significant change in just a year.

But, how do you get there?  And how do you keep yourself accountable for that level of commitment?  We talked with some of our members in the SOCO community about the tools, tactics and growth opportunities they’re interested in right now.  There’s great wisdom in the collective, so we asked members three questions around what their learning, what their focused on and what tools they’re using to push forward and keep growing. We hope you enjoy!

#1: What book, podcast, or video has given you an “aha” moment, and why? 🔥

Witt Bauknight: Founder/Owner BrainSTEM Tutoring

Too many to count! Most of my recs are entrepreneurial-focused.

1. Profit First (Mike Michalowicz)- There’s already a cult-following for this book at SOCO. Great lesson or reminder that the point of owning a company is to serve YOU.

2. I Will Teach You to Be Rich (Ramit Sethi)- a good personal finance book. Sethi is a newer Dave Ramsey, but his ideas on automating personal finances is crucial. This is my go-to gift for HS and College graduates.

3. How to Get Rich (Felix Dennis)-Ignore the cheesy title again, but you notice a trend. An entertaining read with snippets that are geared towards entrepreneurs that are building something great.

Elissa Macarin: Senior Manager of Design, DxTEL

The SOCO book club books have really been taking me out of my “comfort” reading genres and it’s been a lot of fun to just read!

Ernest Wiggins: Professor Emeritus, University of South Carolina

I really enjoy reading Monocle magazine and frequently have “aha moments” while reading their reporting on quality of life innovations in cities around the world — not just world capitals but other cities of note. I believe they also have podcasts.

Jared Macarin: Senior Editor, Home Solutions

Radical Candor. I was sent the book when I started my new job. It’s about leadership and it gave me good perspective for working with others.

Christina Goodman:  Owner, Visual Brand Specialist, Artvark Creative

I am always inspired by makers who share their creative process online whether they work in pottery, smithing, or leatherwork, it inspires me to do my own projects when I see other folk being creative.

#2: What’s a life-changing tool you’d recommend to fellow SOCO members?

Witt: 

A thorough calendar. This rec is for the younger, disorganized crowd like me. Life and business is too busy to not write stuff down. I use Google Calendar because my whole life is essentially on G-Suite, but I like that I can look at my work and personal calendar simultaneously. My goal is to be able to block out my work calendar for the benefit of my personal calendar, and not the other way around.

Elissa:

Take naps, sometimes your brain/body just really need to shut down and reset and that’s OK!

Ernest:

Actually, I have found watching the YouTube channel Primitive Technology hugely transformative. A man working in the Australian Outback builds shelters and tools with nothing but the material found in the area. The only modern instrument is the camera he uses to record his activities. The videos are not narrated — except with captions — and they are fascinating and grew my appreciation for individual resourcefulness and commitment to salvaging and recycling material.

Jared: 

Prioritizing relaxation in your daily schedule. We all need to unwind.

Christina:  

I’ve been really loving brain.fm. It’s an app that uses audio frequencies to help increase focus-especially for neurodivergent folk. It’s almost annoying that it works so well. 🙂

#3: What is one area of growth you are focusing on this year, and what are you doing about it?

Witt: 

My year follows the school year, so this is a great time to reflect and “manifest” those growth goals. It’s morbid, but if I died tomorrow, BrainSTEM Tutoring would die with me and come to a screeching halt. A less morbid case, if I wanted to travel to Italy next year for my best friend’s destination wedding, would I be glued to my phone/laptop the whole time, or would I be able to unplug and business things keep chugging along? My goal for growth will be to continue to expand BrainSTEM Tutoring to be the go-to STEM tutors at more colleges in the southeast while pulling myself out of the day to day.

Elissa:

Get outside A LOT more! (When it’s not a million degrees out) and just move.

Ernest:

I am slowly working on building my understanding of data science and its applications.

Jared: 

Professional growth. Just became certified as an educator for personal Finance, and just learning more areas of the space in general.

Christina Goodman:  

I am pushing past fear and imposter syndrome to submit my own short fiction stories to magazines for publication. I celebrate every rejection (got four in July) as a win-along-the-way.

Speaking of Growth ✨

While we’re on the subject of growth, doing your best work and generally being a bad-assed human…we think you should come find your happy (work) place with us at SOCO. We work really hard to create great workspaces filled with excellent, kind humans, chock-full of amenities like blazing wifi, bottomless coffee/tea and well appointed meeting rooms. We have coworking, fixed desk and private office options. We also have an incredible community of like-minded professionals to lean on, leverage and contribute to (that’s the fun part). Join us whydontcha?